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redbird's avatar

i love this.

thanks for writing this piece, for looking kindly & thoughtfully at a bunch of things that deserve nuance & are far more complicated than “we” (by that i mean lefties/progressives, speaking w/o authority for my tribe) want them to be.

i remember first hearing yrs ago of bari as essentially an untouchable- then accidentally reading her me2 questioning piece and finding -2 my surprise!- that it resonated soundly with my own opinions, then eventually becoming a closet reader of her substack. (for the record, i don’t agree with her, or you, or anyone, on everything. but she, and you, have some interesting things to say. so i read).

i SO want my tribe, the progressive/left, to be as awesome irl as we are in my mind: open minded & big hearted & 99% right & super gracious when we’re wrong.

i hate seeing the dissonance.

and i see the dissonance so much. today i was likened to ted cruz (!?) by a loved one when i shared my personal discomfort with compelled pronoun listing. because “liberals don’t have a problem with that, just ppl like ted cruz”...

and that naïveté is a through line in my progressive spheres, with a few “don’t tell them” back-channel conversations about whatever “aha” topics a person has marking the way.

my take?

we (progressive lefties) aren’t the “good guys” and they (moderates/conservatives) aren’t the “bad guys”. both sides straw man the other. both sides are falible. both sides have some good points & sometimes we’re talking shit. we’re *all* just ppl and yet, in my spheres to say that is heresy. to not tow the line is heresy. to suggest the other side has a good point on that one thing is heresy.

i appreciate you making space for this here.

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Shannon's avatar

This was a great read. Relieved to hear anyone willing to talk about these crazy and dangerous happenings. I get so upset sometimes internally when having conversations that I just can’t find the words to explain how I feel.

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